Losing the Ego / personality does not mean that it’s unimportant. It just means that a temporary loss is necessary for you to find it entirely.
An Astronaut living inside a ship, looking out the windows all his life would never really know what his ship looked like until he ‘lost’ it – floated out into the nothingness, turned around and gazed upon his ship for the first time at a distance.
DEVELOPING THE VEHICLE
Even though the Astronaut is doing a space walk in the nothingness his ship is still very important, it’s still a vehicle for getting him where he wants to go. Observing it at a distance allows him to notice any potential flaws or damage so he can go to work developing an even better ship. If people point out flaws in his ship, instead of getting defensive because he cannot see them, he can climb out of the ship and evaluate whether the criticism is true or not and whether he can do anything about them.
The Astronaut may have always lived as a passenger looking out a side window, letting the ship run on autopilot. But when he moves outside the ship and gazes upon it at a distance he may notice the ship’s path for the first time, and realize the urgent need to take control and make adjustments to the course. Several times over a single day the astronaut must remember to zoom out, notice the course he’s on and make adjustments.
HOW DO YOU ZOOM OUT?
To lose the Ego you must imagine it lost. Death is an extremely useful meditation. Not just imagining physical death but death of any feature in life. Cutting away attachments does not mean you appreciate them any less, it just means you realize the danger of traveling with attachments. You can enjoy them while they are on the same course is you, but attachments will inevitably break away from the ship, and the stronger the attachment to the ship the more damage they will cause when they depart. The worst thing the astronaut can do is follow these attachments and go way off course chasing what once was.
FULL POTENTIAL ASTRONAUT
An astronaut that’s living his full potential will zoom out frequently, make course corrections and cut away attachments that might dock onto the ship. He is hungry to find his own weaknesses so that he may develop them. Rather than getting insulted or defensive, he’s thankful when others point out something he may have not noticed about his ship because he views it as an opportunity for further development. He meditates frequently upon the prospect of his ships eventual destruction and the departing of all the enjoyable features of life orbiting around his ship.
Although the consideration of loss is unpleasant at first, he knows that once he peels past the first bitter layer the fruit is sweet and at the core; seeds of wisdom.